Oh, Janet. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry she doesn't understand and has unrealistic expectations. I'm so sorry she's overstepping too, trying to fix instead of listening. I know you know that she loves you and that's why she wants to fix this for you. Unfortunately, she's making it worse. I don't know what you can do since she isn't listening. I feel your frustration - I would feel that way too.

I wish I had a suggestion for you. Maybe you need a punching bag!